I always find it hard writing about love.

Mainly because so many of us instinctively want to believe that love, as we know it, is the truest human virtue. But, of course, this is often far from the truth. I’m not trying to taint love. Quite the opposite, I want us to understand it and, through it, understand who we truly are.
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You see, love as we know it is all about CONDITIONS. Ask anybody to write a list of things you MUST DO when in a loving relationship and then ask them to write a list of things you MUST NOT DO when in a loving relationship. I guarantee you the second list will always be much, much longer. 

This is because love as we know it is structured NOT so much around GIVING (The Person), as it is around RECEIVING (The Benefit). In short, love as we know it is structured on BENEFIT: i.e. “I will love you as long as I get the benefit.”
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It supposed to go like this:
“I LOVE YOU FOR WHO YOU TRULY ARE.”

However, most often it goes something like this:
“I LOVE YOU BUT you have to love me back, and you must NOT do this, this, that and the other. It also means you must stop doing this, give up being like that, never go there and never ever do something you did when you were truly living it up. The list of DON’T’s goes on and on.
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When we say “I love you,” what we’re actually saying is “I love the way you make me FEEL.” In other words, I love the feeling, the BENEFIT. As long as I get the benefit, I will be happy and love you back. But if you bring out my insecurities, then that will hurt me and I will no longer feel the benefit. What’s even worse is that enough people now believe this bullshit and we call it the TRUTH.
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There is nothing wrong about benefit and feeling great! That is the nature of our reality, where every action initiates a reaction. The problem is that we’re unaware of and unwilling to admit, what’s truly going on. And as a result, we don’t focus on the PERSON; we focus on BENEFIT.

This is our reality:
NO BENEFIT = NO LOVE. ☹ ☹ ☹
This truly is fucked up because the reality should be the other way around: 
NO LOVE = NO BENEFIT. 
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HERE’S THE EXCITING NEWS:
To undo the damage, all we need to do is to UNDERSTAND WHO WE TRULY ARE. This is an all-important secret I have learned on my many journeys. Namely:
“We don’t do things to be in love. Instead, WE ARE LOVE and thus we do things.”

This seems easy. However, it often takes a lifetime to get it right. Sadly, too many run out of time before they figure it out, or live their lives clinching on to benefits rather than loving the amazing person behind the benefits.
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PS: Good morning the loving world, wherever you are
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