Many don’t like it when I write about LOVE as chemistry and benefit. But it’s important we have an open and sincere debate. Here’s the way I see it: 

When talking about LOVE, we have to differentiate between TRUE LOVE and EARTHLY LOVE. Earthly Love, generally involves FALLING IN LOVE and/or BEING IN LOVE with someone or something.

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When in LOVE, our body produces emotions (CHEMISTRY), which manifest as AFFECTION. The MIND registers this as PLEASURE and we say that we are IN LOVE with somebody or something. But what we are really IN LOVE with is the FEELING, the way that person or something makes us FEEL. Put simply, our love is conditional upon our experience of PLEASURE. We love the FEELING of closeness, excitement, the extra security, being wanted, valued, important, not alone etc. One common trait all these feelings have is that they are CONDITIONAL.

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What does this mean? Well, like it or not, EARTHLY LOVE is all about BENEFIT. We love someone or something because of the BENEFIT we get.

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If you don’t agree with this, let’s examine what happens when the BENEFIT is removed:

When people break up, the feeling of LOVE is replaced with pain, disappointment, fear,  anger and so forth. We feel wounded and betrayed. This is because our understanding of LOVE is conditional: “You love me and I will love you” and vice versa. Furthermore, this deal is exclusive. As soon as we or they stop loving, the deal is off.

In short: NO BENEFIT = NO LOVE. 

Of course, there are always exceptions, but generally, it’s all about the BENEFIT, which is conditional on someone or something.

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Why am I telling you this? Because the point of being human is to UNDERSTAND Who We Truly Are. Here are 3 points to consider ❤

1. LOVING is WINNING. When love is over, you are still a winner! Napoleon Hill put it eloquently when he wrote: “If you believe yourself unfortunate because you have “loved and lost,” perish the thought. One who has loved truly can never lose entirely.”
2. When love has diminished, there’s no need for anger, sadness or the feeling of loss. When love is over, you simply return to your normal state. No loss!
3.  Understanding Earthly Love as a BENEFIT should hopefully encourage everyone to explore the quality of TRUE LOVE.

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I will address TRUE LOVE in some other post. For now, consider the truth from The Unfinished Book:

“YOU CAN ALWAYS LOOSE WHAT YOU HAVE. BUT YOU CAN NEVER LOOSE WHO YOU TRULY ARE.”

PS: Good morning the loving world, whoever you are ❤

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